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Hi, I'm Danielle (a writer, digital marketer, casual runner, and whatever other labels you want to pick and choose from). I also happen to be transsexual. I have a sneaking suspicion that it'll be a while until I publish my first best seller, so in the meantime, here are my thoughts on everything.

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Let's talk about sex

Let's talk about sex, though 'sex' might not be entirely accurate (since I never have any of it). Specifically,  I'd like to talk about how sex and relationships have worked in my experience as a trans woman. There are a couple of things I've been asked, or heard, that pertain to sex and my transition - so I thought I'd answer them here.

I was going to write a blog post about this, but instead I made a YouTube video. Here are some of the things I talk about:

"Have you had the surgery yet?" If the answer is no, the person typically moves on. So you're attractive enough to fuck, but really, you're just a penis - since apparently that's all that matters.

"I respect trans people for being true to themselves - but I could never be with one"

"Why don't you check out a gay dating site like grindr?" You know, because you're still really a man.

And here's the video itself:


Renee said...

Hi Danielle. i know this vid is old but I still wanted to comment. The way some treat a trans person is appauling. As if you're not equal just bc you were born in the wrong body. I hope one day all of that changes. know that you are beautiful and one hell of a lady :-)

Rockguy32 said...

Oh god does this one ring so true. The only pre-op transgirl I know that's actually in a relationship is with another pre-op transgirl. This is the part of transition I hate the most.

tay said...

Well I think your beautiful no matter what gender you are..